This flower is called narcisis. It is named after Greek myth character who comitted suicide looking at his reflection. As the myth’s ending tells, it is about self-centeredness and foolishness with a lesson that you should not be a narcicisit. It is totally not about self-esteem, although in literal sense very similar.
Narcisissm, in my point of view, is totally logcially flawed. You know, if somebody near you goes down, does that mean you are going up? No, you just feel that way which is somewhat simialr to Newton’s first law. It is total imaturity and deemed evil and it does not make any sense. If you are someone who thinks people around you to go down to make you feel better, if you provoke someone to get bullyed, you may be falling in this fallacy. It’s okey. You can still change if you know. Try to meet somebody who is warm, welcoming and do not judge you based on what you achieve. Narcissist with narcissist only make the your world darker. Cut it out so that you don’t harm yourself, especially your reputation, more like the myth’s character. Look long-term. Come out of vanity and seek truth.
In relaitonship wise, you get what you deserve. You may have worked hard to get it. But looking down on someone is different story. Your success and her failure has no corelation, 0. She might have a unfair and unspeakable reason why she did not suceed as much as you do, you judging her that way on the first sight is just your short-mindedness you should try to hide. She might be better at something else but you focosing on your strength is related to your greed to get overly acknowledged. Don’t ever show off to put someone down. It is just provoking jealousy that leads others angry that may even lead you to have a hard life. Being overly proud of yourself only comes at your expense. You may seem social but people think you are not humble enough, making you really not social and communicatable at micro-level. It is not totally right to name someobdy narcicist, most people may change but it is not right to stay silent about it either because they often are causing abuse and getting away with it.
Humanism is very improtant, more important than money and power you seek for. To be truely acknowledged you need to work hard, contemplate, and be considerate of others. Or else, you might fall into this pitfall yourself. Imaturity is forgiven once but never repeatley. As sooon as you notice something’s wrong, say sorry with a heart. Or later, say sorry to them for yourself to be free of guilt. It is for you, really. If you are narcissist, it is totally not your fault because you had difficult enviroment to be nice, that may be due to mean people around you since childhood but, you still can judge and act otherwise. Be a decision maker, yourself. There is more improtant things than being fit to the group and being cool and complying to majority. Just because everybody does it does’nt mean it is right. Think rationally. Grow please.
If you are using it as a a way to say no, as a refusal strategy, you are hurting that person for sure, people are not stupid. Just say no, You have right to say no. Don’t be mean to people who are curious about you. They’ll understand you if you explain your reasons. This is just best way to say no and accept that sometimes you can’t be friends with everybody. You might not have circumsatances to do so. Just clearly state your feeling. Later, it will turn out to a better choice. Stop being misunderstood and treated evil.
Hope this helps. Thank You.